Free
The Capacity Check™
Five minutes to find what's binding your capacity first — and a sensible starting place.
Executive Frame™ · for families
EF|Family
Families
regulate together.
Parenting in the hard moments no one prepares you for — created by psychologists, built by parents.
For parents, children, and family systems under pressure.
The model
The C³ Loop™
The repeating cycle — Centre, Clarify, Choose, then return. The architecture under the work.
The mapThe Tunnel™
The predictable way capacity narrows under pressure — named early, so you can exit it deliberately.
The resetS.H.I.F.T.™
Stop · Hold · Focus · Take Action. The real-time reset for the hard moment — under a minute, anywhere.
What it is
Families regulate together
EF|Family is parenting support for the hard moments no one prepares you for — created by psychologists, built by parents.
How it works
Centre · Clarify · Choose,
calibrated to the family.
Stage 01 · EI
Centre
Regulate before you respond. Your steadiness is the room's steadiness.
Stage 02 · EF
Clarify
Read the moment, not just the behaviour. See what's underneath it.
Stage 03 · SDT
Choose
Repair — which matters more than getting it perfect.
Outcomes
What shifts.
Calmer responses in the hard moments.
Connection that holds through conflict.
Repair that happens, reliably.
A home that regulates together.
Good to know
The details.
01Who it's for
For parents, children, and family systems under pressure. If you're not sure it's the right fit, the Capacity Check will point you to the right starting place.
02How it's delivered
One-to-one, in small groups, or in-house for teams and organisations — in person across Auckland, Christchurch, and Queenstown, or by telehealth nationwide. Begin with a short intake and we'll match you to the right format.
03What you'll work with
Every engagement is built around portable, real-time tools: the C³ Loop™, the S.H.I.F.T.™ reset, and the diagnostics in the Library. You leave with something you can use the next day.
04The evidence base
Three established literatures — emotional intelligence, executive functioning, and self-determination theory — sequenced as Centre, Clarify, Choose. The science sets out the full basis.
Ways to work with EF|Family · Start free
Start with a useful move.
Free, practical tools for understanding what is happening and choosing a first next step.
Free
Phase worksheets
A fillable worksheet for each phase of the loop — Centre, Clarify, Choose.
Free
S.H.I.F.T.™ quick-use guide
The four-step reset you can run in under a minute, wherever you are.
Free
Real-time tools card
The EF home & family real-time tools on one printable card — for real family moments.
Free
Browse the full library
Every free tool, guide, product, and programme for this arm — searchable, in one place.
Work through it yourself
Work through it in your own time.
Structured tools that turn insight into practical action — at your pace, in your context.
Guided family workbooks are joining the shelf — browse what's already available on the Resources shelf, or enquire about what would help your family now.
Choose your next step
Check. Learn. Reset. Begin.
Choose a structured assessment, practical resources, a real-time regulation tool, or support matched to your needs.
01Check
The Capacity Check™
Identify which area of functioning is currently under the greatest strain.
Start the check→ 02LearnTools and resources
Use evidence-informed guides and worksheets to understand patterns and apply practical strategies.
Browse the tools→ 03ResetS.H.I.F.T.™
Reduce arousal, restore attention, and interrupt reactive behaviour when pressure rises.
Use S.H.I.F.T.™→ 04BeginStart an intake
Tell us what you need so we can identify the most appropriate pathway for support.
Start your intake→